Help Someone

If a friend or colleague has experienced sexual violence, sexual assault, sexual harassment, dating/domestic violence or stalking, here are some ways you can be supportive:

  • Let them know university resources are available:
    • For UCOP, the Faculty & Staff Assistance Program (FSAP) provides assessment, counseling and referral services for a broad range of personal and work-related issues. FSAP also has trained professionals available to offer compassionate and confidential support. To set up an appointment, call (415) 476-8279. Staff at the UCPath Center can access the UC Riverside FSAP.
    • Employees and their eligible dependents enrolled in UC’s Health Plans have access to behavioral health counseling services. (Learn more about this option).
  • Listen. Offer support and compassion. Be patient and try to avoid interrupting them or making statements that may be judgmental.
    • Don’t ask for details about what happened or why it happened. Let survivors share what they are comfortable sharing. Avoid questions that suggest blame.
    • Challenge statements of self-blame. The responsibility for the assault lies with the perpetrator(s), regardless of what the survivor did leading up to, during or after what happened.
    • If the survivor wants to seek medical attention or report the assault, offer to accompany that person to the hospital, police station, campus security, etc.
    • Ask how you can help.
    • Respect the survivor's privacy. Do not tell others about the survivor’s assault or reveal any names or details, without the survivor’s permission.
  • Take care of yourself. Supporting a survivor can be a very emotional and challenging experience. Pay attention to your needs — this could mean setting boundaries, spending time on activities you enjoy, or talking to a friend or counselor if needed.