Pape Cowan: When parents are talking about
doing it for the kids, what we think we see happening
is that they're focusing a great deal on what kind
of parents are you supposed to be to be the best parent
and get a child who's the best adjusted and adapted
and who will do best with other children and in school
and so on.
Narrator: But what happens is the couple's
marriage gets lost in the process.
Pape Cowan: We would just encourage them not
to give up everything about their couple relationship
for the children. Because actually in the long run
what our results show is that that doesn't help the
kids. Couples who are more satisfied with their life
as partners seem to be more effective in general as
Narrator: For Science Today, I'm Larissa Branin.